I’ve got a new book on my wishlist. Yeah, I know — big surprise.
But I absolutely have to get my hands on The Big Disconnect: Protecting Childhood and Family Relationships in the Digital Age by Catherine Steiner-Adair, EdD.
I learned more about this book when I read The Huffington Post’s interview of Dr. Steiner-Adair. What really spoke to me is that it doesn’t focus only on the effects of children having too much media, but it also focuses on the impact that parents having too much media has on families.
These are the eight essential things parents with children of all ages need to know about screens, as told by Dr. Steiner-Adair during the interview:
1. Don’t put your baby in front of a screen. Ever.
2. And think hard about putting your toddler in front of one, too.
3. Teachers can tell if your child is getting too much screen time.
4. Your kids hate your screens.
5. Just because we can be connected to work 24/7 doesn’t mean we should be.
6. Screens aren’t good for your marriage. And that’s not good for your kids.
7. In order to be a good parent, you need to take care of yourself.
8. Sorry, but you really don’t know what your kids are doing online. But that doesn’t mean you should give up trying.
Make sure to take a look at the book (you can even look inside!). I’m particularly interested in Chapter 8 — “The Sustainable Family: Turning Tech into an Ally for Closeness, Creativity, and Community.” And Dr. Steiner-Adair goes into more detail about the eight points listed above during her interview so check that out, too.
Dr. Steiner-Adair is an internationally recognized clinical psychologist, school consultant, and author. She maintains a private practice in Massachusetts, is a clinical instructor in the Department of Psychiatry at Harvard Medical School and an associate psychologist at McLean Hospital, and speaks to numerous audiences, including educators, health professionals, PTAs, religious groups, and nonprofit organizations. I’d love to arrange for her to present in my area as I’m guessing many of us see ways we need to improve our parenting somewhere in the list above.
Me? #5 & #7.
Which ones do you want to work on? Please comment below. And don’t be shy! 🙂